Managing Marital Conflict: Stop Drop and Role/Roll

Conflict is inevitable and when we share our lives and living spaces with someone, we are bound to have differences resulting in conflicts. I’d like to give you something easy to remember when you’re having a conflict with your spouse again. I want you to think of conflict like a fire. I remember a childhood song that says “it only takes a spark to get a fire going”, and though it was speaking of “God’s love”, it’s the same with conflict. No wonder James 3:6 describes the tongue as fire that can set our whole lives on fire! It only Read More

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Is your life falling apart?

If you’re reading this post, then you’ve probably been in some dark places where you feel hopeless, helpless and powerless. I’ve been there too.  Sometimes we find ourselves teetering on the edge of disaster as the waves of life crash into us, eroding our sense of who we are and who God is. It becomes harder and harder to handle the day to day running of our lives much less function as someone’s spouse or parent. And who usually gets the brunt of our emotions? That’s right…Our family members. Too often they become the straw that breaks the camel’s back Read More

Christian parent

The one thing a Christian parent must do everyday

Can you imagine having ten children running around, home-schooling them, taking care of a husband and a home, grieving the loss of nine of nineteen children and two burned dwellings, dealing with financial crises and still keeping your cool? Maybe you can but I’m not sure how I would handle it. Well that’s the story of Susanna Wesley. This great mother of Zion is the mother of John and Charles Wesley, gentlemen who were very influential figures in the Christian church. She was an incredible woman, but what was the secret to her success? How was she able to manage Read More

Loving on a budget

Lovin’ on a budget- Spouse edition

Lovin’ on a budget (because a lack of money is no excuse for loving) Many of us can relate to wanting to do something extra special for our spouses but not having the funds to do what we’d really like. Your family may be operating on a small budget for a variety of reasons and there just isn’t enough in the kitty for that weekend at the all inclusive hotel or favorite thing the person has been hinting at.  A birthday or anniversary may be coming up at a bad time or you just feel like doing something extra special, Read More

For the mom...tantrum

For the mom who’s about to have a toddler tantrum

I have a toddler and there are some days when I feel like I’m the one about to have a “toddler tantrum”. Even if your child/children are older, sometimes it’s just downright frustrating to be someone’s mother (… I’ve heard reports of this). You know what I mean, those moments when you get upset, and frustrated you’re on the brink of crying and you just want to yell and scream or get it out somehow. Nothing you do is working; nothing you say is working and you feel like you’ve exhausted all options. Now is the time when you need Read More


Making your home sensually appealing

Your home ought to be your favourite place, your safe haven, your respite from everyday hassles, the one place on earth that can truly rejuvenate your spirit. That’s what God wants your home to be. The atmosphere of the home is so important and there are little things we can do to keep it fragrant and happy through appealing to the senses. (I don’t mean to disappoint those of you who are reading this article with something else in mind but sensual does mean other things…wink, wink…although I’ll write about that too) Here’s how you can give your home that Read More

the stupidest thing to do after a baby

The “stupidest” thing you can do after having a baby

So you go through nine months of religiously taking your vitamins, worrying about what you eat, going to checkups, maybe throwing up a little(…alright, maybe a lot) and after labor and delivery take home this little human who has no choice but to be dependent on you for EVERYTHING. Like you, I’d hate to mess this situation up. What’s the “stupidest” thing you can do? There are many stupid things you can do and when you’re new parents you’re bound to make mistakes. Please avoid all the ones that are detrimental to health and life but outside of these, the Read More

Going to bed

Why going to bed at the same time is better for your marriage

Go to bed together Are you married to an early nighter who gets up before the crack of dawn (much to your annoyance) while you’re a night owl who treasures those moments of sleeping in? Believe it or not, this difference can negatively affect the quality of your relationship. Here’s a little excerpt from the Wall Street Journal: “Researchers found spouses who go to bed at different times report significantly less relationship satisfaction than those on the same schedule. They have more conflict, spend less time in shared activities and serious conversation” Studies have shown that the happiest couples go Read More

How to know if your marriage is in trouble

How to know if your marriage is in trouble

In the busy seasons of our lives and just the regular pace of life, it’s easy for there to be stress and strain on our marriages and if we’re not aware of the early signs of trouble and how to nip it in the bud, we’re in for disaster so I’d like to share with you some threats to marriage. We are aware of the numerous assaults the devil hurls at families and especially at marriages as that is the heart of the home. The best way to overcome an enemy is to be aware of his strategy. So if Read More


Why men need to submit too

Last time I tackled the ladies on the matter of submission, but shouldn’t husbands have to submit too? The answer is yes. Men must submit to a greater authority than themselves, God. I married my husband, not because he is perfect (although he’s pretty awesome) but because I could see where he was growing in his submission to God’s authority in his life and he continues to grow. It’s awesome to watch. A man who submits to God is easy to submit to. The head of a real man is God and as he submits to God, God teaches him Read More