I can remember situations where I’ve been rude or inconsiderate to the ones I love, maybe because we were having a disagreement or I was having a bad day. Can any of you relate? Today we continue our study on 1 Corinthians 13 with the principle “Love does not behave rudely”. I am so committed now to being at the very least respectful no matter what’s going on.
This aspect of our love challenge is one that I’m quite passionate about because too many times in our homes we are the most miserable and unseemly but when we are out and about or entertaining visitors we are nice and polite and I just believe that who you are with your family is who you truly are. They are your primary source of support and deserve the best of you.
So love is not rude and this goes for every member of the household. I’ve heard some things parents say to their children and if the script were ever to be flipped and child were to say to the parents what was said to them, the parents would be most hurt and angry. Parents, even when you’re angry with your children, relate to them in a loving way. Put it this way, you are bound to do or say something that may offend your child one day, how would you like them to approach you about it? We teach them how to deal with us and others by how we relate to them.
The same holds true for children. Would you like to receive God’s promise of a long and happy life? Honour your father and mother. The Bible doesn’t say, honour your father and mother if they give you everything you want but simply, honour your father and mother…no excuses. We must never be rude to our parents.
For spouses, we must mind our manners. If we truly love each other, just be nice. Refrain from doing or saying things that you know the other person doesn’t appreciate. Make the effort to break those bad, annoying habits. Use words such as please, thank you, you’re welcome, excuse me or pardon me.
We must always act in such a manner that we are building up and not tearing down those around us and rudeness never builds.
The book “The Love Dare” by Stephen and Alex Kendrick outlines three principles to help us practice better etiquette in our marriages and by extension, we will adapt this principle to general family life:
- Guard the golden rule, which of course means we must treat our family members the same way we would like to be treated as outlined in Luke 6:31
- No double standards, meaning that we must be just as considerate to our spouses and children as we would be to strangers, co-workers and friends.
- Honour requests. Think about what your family members have requested that you do or not do and follow through.
Have you ever been guilty of being rude to the ones you love? Comment below and let us know how you plan to go about applying this aspect of 1 Corinthians 13 to your life. Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE!
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